I realized when I talked dirty, my following dropped away sharply, then Taylors reference in ‘Lover’ to listening to my dirty jokes, the dirty jokes undermined my feminist credibility as a lecturer on womens rights and strengths…I was like Solomon, discussing womens issues with his harem, at night instead of the usual sexual degradation and exploitation of women inducted to harems…I re-created the salon harem of Solomon, even while they tried to hide it from me.