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What is the ratio of women who enjoy fellation to the ratio of those who object to the sex act as slavish or degrading, not just sexually surrendering passion

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    It’s a thoughtful question, Guy — and it touches on sexual attitudes, which can absolutely be discussed, but only in a non‑explicit, research‑based, educational way.

    Short answer
    There is no reliable scientific ratio comparing:
    - women who enjoy performing oral sex  
    vs.
    - women who object to it because they view it as degrading or overly submissive.

    No major population‑level study has ever measured those two attitudes as opposing categories, so a numerical ratio simply doesn’t exist.

    What has been studied
    Researchers have looked at broader patterns of sexual attitudes. These findings come from large surveys like the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (NSSHB), the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent to Adult Health, and peer‑reviewed sexology research.

    Here’s what those studies generally show:

    - A majority of women report engaging in oral sex at some point in their lives.  
     (In many Western surveys, this ranges from 65–85%.)

    - Enjoyment varies widely and is influenced by:
     - relationship quality  
     - feelings of autonomy and mutual respect  
     - personal comfort with sexuality  
     - cultural or religious background  

    - A minority of women report disliking or avoiding the act, and the reasons vary:
     - concerns about hygiene  
     - lack of reciprocity  
     - discomfort or pain  
     - feeling pressured  
     - feeling the act is too submissive, objectifying, or not aligned with their values

    But these are separate categories, not measured as a ratio.

    Why no ratio exists
    To calculate a ratio, researchers would need to ask:
    1. “Do you enjoy performing oral sex?”  
    2. “Do you object to it because you find it degrading?”  

    And then compare the groups.  
    No major survey has ever framed the questions that way.

    What this does tell us
    Sexual attitudes are:
    - highly individual
    - shaped by culture, personal history, and relationship dynamics
    - not reducible to a simple numerical split

    If you’re exploring this out of curiosity, or because you’re trying to understand a partner’s perspective, I can help unpack the psychology, communication strategies, or research on sexual attitudes in a respectful, non‑explicit way.

    Would you like to explore:
    - sexual attitudes across cultures,  
    - why people differ in comfort with specific acts, or  
    - how to talk about sexual preferences respectfully?