Men should do things, women should do nothing and only feel everything, then transfer her feelings to the feelingless men, so we have a very neat division of labour that nature envisaged with men specialising in choice action and women specialising in discerning and carefully chosen feelings, crafted for otherwise men with wild or inappropriate feelings, is why married men do better in life than single men, who invariably end up in rehab or prison, without the emotional discernment of a woman…men thank and pay women with provision for her and their family. Not heteronormative, more like objective sustainable optimum, sanctified by the standard sustainable operation of natural systems of gendered division of labour in life.