Dom ‘control’ is an opposite practical concept to ‘Desire’, it contradicts sponateous desire and channels desire into exploitation for control outcomes, not desire outcomes. Two people in fluid negotiation of every moment, is not direction of one by the other for the outcomes of one party, which is exploitation, where there is no real reciprocity of benefit and needs, only the needs of the exploiter. ‘Hitler syndrome’, to be loved by all, but Love none.